When you have no clue, where you’re heading to, then any lane can guide you there!

An unsettling reality through the toxic notion that subsidizes our immune system as well as our confidence. This is what impairs our formative years. Fault finding is an art we are accustomed to as a society, we rarely see something positive. Our insights are rigged with pessimistic ideas. 

A single member that has a sour frame of mind can blemish the atmosphere of an entire family. As long as we are groomed to see predicament as a problem and not otherwise then this doesn’t only affect us as young lads, except grows further and affects those who we surround ourselves with. Just as a ghastly tomato destroys others in a bunch then likewise one cynical thought can tarnish our mentality, furthermore, it grows stronger to be contagious in our society.  

   

We should bear in mind that criticism carries more weight in our life and resides with us similar to how a dark stain dents a white shirt contrary to positive praise. This is the exact rationale media outlets have a specialty in. Since finding someone’s grime (scandals) has a high chance of drawing customers’ attention plus being perceived as more true than an extol. 

We are misplaced in this tight spot unacquainted on how to take charge. Aren’t we perplexed on how a young kid who has a mission to go all-out for success resting on that is the fact that all efforts are facilitated to pleasing their parents, however, when the results are out what runs through the guardian's obscured mind is the one subject which he failed then grumbles disregarding the other 11 subjects which are straight A’s? 

Having a well-founded perception that if you praise a kid then what will follow will be a sluggish performance not realizing how destructive we are towards our kids demolishing their self-esteem as well as self-reliance. 

It might seem gruesome just the fact that you took notice of it, nevertheless, these factors do exist in our communities and parents having a trend of name-calling their kids with ill comments, lashing them into despair. 

These kids grow up in search of a mentor to cover the breach which is caused by the parents and the fact that they refused to assume a place where kids can have a friend as their parents, and a role model at the same time. What they are looking for is just that liberty of being able to converse and come to common terms.

A father might feel relief to growl when he is at home, depositing his anger towards the children and likewise a mother seems to incline in the same direction. Verbal abuse and corporal punishment have been made by parents as their source of stress discharging. 

How can we be keen on love if we are surrounded by negative vibes? Instead of attachment we foster hate and create distance between us and that is the same reason we can’t even talk politely. 

We have to understand our thoughts, distance our hearts and the only way to get the other one to hear you is through shouting, but the question remains till when will we be this way?

All these are as a result of our subsequent downbeat thoughts, and the frustration which we have given copious power to depict foregone conclusion in all that we see. Now, as these kids grow up they need to develop a default system of the brain that tunes them to only remember the risky and traumatic experience with vague images of the good old day. 

I wish I could tell you it is much easier since to clear this obscuring negative thought is similar to a vessel of muddy water, however much clean water we pour into the jug. What we can only see is just impure water. 

Who do we have as a leader and a mentor is a question with no riposte? A shocking reality which we need to work on to improve what seems to be a norm. This is a grave mistake that acts as a tinge in our community.

10 transformative facts in our life.

1. We require guidance to enhance our living standards.

2. Absorb the fact of not taking things personally.

3. We should occupy ourselves as an alternative to being idle.

4. Reset our default.

5. Learn how to transform our problems into challenges.

6. Learn to make your bed, to despise the negative vibes.

7. Set reasonable goals.

8. Distinguish between emotions and thoughts.

9. Study our hurdles and bear them as our means and not our end.

10. Be content with who you are and what you have.

By Dr. Mohamed Bahaidar (Expert on social issues, Recipient of the most distinguished award in the Middle East, North Africa, and Asia, Author of The Hidden Self, The Point of Deflection, A Household of Bliss, Sparkling Hope, and Mirror Reflection.)