Why You Should Read this Book?

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Right from childhood, the author has lived a life devoid of satisfaction; hidden life I should say. Dumb, stupid, good-for- nothing, failure among others, are some of the tags and labels many leveled against him. He had no confidence in himself and, to make matters worse, the vast majority didn’t see anything good in him. 

Despite it all, his parents, and his role model; his grandfather- Mohamed Mbarak Bahaidar were the ones who believed in him regardless of the gloom that people painted around him. His role model took the trouble to always be there to encourage him and help him to self-reflect, rediscover himself, and uncover his talents. He completed the author’s world pretty, so well.

Such were the circumstances that the writer had to put up with, though he lived with his immediate family who believed in him no matter what and rendered support to him at all costs, and the grandpa became instrumental in his life and the game-changer. 

They worked hard, hand in hand, to keep him encouraged and overcome the frustrations of failure by instilling hope, self-confidence, and courage in him plus the desire to discover and kindle his strengths besides working on his weaknesses. 

He did not lack even a single textbook; his parents provided all that was needed to see him through his early education, even though he emerged at the bottom of his class. He vividly recalls the tears rolling down his mother’s cheeks for his lack of success through his entry exams for grade one. She was dismayed, and fright engulfed her over the future of her son. It looked bleak!

Have you ever had grave concerns and self-defeating thoughts about yourself? Ever looked at yourself in the mirror and all that you saw was a dim, foolish,  individual who is considered dumb? The author thought of himself far worse than these reflections.

Dr. Bahaidar attended normal kindergarten schooling, albeit with a lot of difficulties and practically changed schools at grade 4 three times, every time repeating the same grade- three year in one class!

The strongest God-given pillar of mankind is that of family. His family embraced him even in the wake of such humiliating blows in life. And at the time of need, his blood and flesh did not disappoint him. 

Often his dad would take him out to play, have a one-on-one pep talk, help him discover where his passion lay, and, above all, assured him that he would one day end up being very prosperous. He made sure he attended the best academies, provided him with all the books, and supported him in every way he deemed fit.

The Bahaidar family played a great role in transforming him into who he is today. They constantly reminded him that anyone is bound to fail if forced onto an issue or an area he doesn’t enjoy or value.  The focus here was in identifying his passion. . The moment he figured out his interests and his passion for life, it became a moment for celebration and marked the beginning of his now memorable journey.

His grandfather, his hero and role model was a man who sacrificed everything just to put a smile on the author’s face. Not even a single motivation story did he conceal from him. He encouraged him into sports and raised his ego until he realized how unique he was. 

He acknowledged the support accorded to him, which by far was the greatest asset he had ever encountered to instill hope and chart the way forward. He felt more secure, even though he had a lot that was going on around him. He was more relaxed despite complicated and bewildering circumstances. Above all, self-confidence and sound judgment cleared the way from obscure things that were ahead of him.

Such great mentorship brought him to the point of appreciating each and everything that was done on his behalf with his wife and kids being the epitome of his happiness and a true inspiration.

Then the  grandpa died when the author was 15! Your guess is as good as mine! It was not easy for Dr. Bahaidar to understand the situation and quickly forge a way ahead. He seemed surrounded by nether gloom and desperation. However, one thing kept his spirit up: desire to live his grandpas’ life and appreciation of God’s love for humanity.

Overwhelmed by grief, he seemed  enmeshed in an infinite sea of loneliness and the irreplaceable gap in his heart seemed to widen by day. A common feeling for anybody when a close person succumbs to mortality. It was, to him, becoming a vitiating element with no hope left to forge the way forward. Darkness seemed to reign, and the clouds didn't seem to have any silver lining.  Lessons had begun. And so was a long journey into an endless quest for true meaning of life.

Over time, the author stumbled upon this realization: success is neither tied to the swift nor to the rich, but that time and chance happens to them all. What ails the society, in fact, is the cut-throat blind competition between and among mates, neighbours and groups. That our lives are put on whimsicals such as  who is smart enough to emerge the top student? Who is diligent and industrious to be crowned employee of the year, who has the best IQ and so forth.  

We are socialized into such  ideologies and strata  so much that we often forget the real meaning of life. We get so  obsessed about the stiff competitions and eventually we get skewed in the way we look at virtually everything. The maxim that should set a platform is- Cogito ergo sum: I think, therefore I am.

The thought process began which was so rife at the moment to help the author  maneuver through the grief which seemed to be getting the better of him.  He was in a dire need  of a quick fix . He wondered whether he would have the bliss in life as he dreamed like young people do or was the death of the mentor a  point of no return?’

After the many near misses he had had throughout his life, at the age of 18 he profited immensely drawing deeply from self-help books with the help of Babu Ali Mandry that ignited a positive spirit within him and brought an understanding of the need to look at the brighter side of things. 

The more he delved into the world of philosophy, psychology, and motivational stories, the more desire he had to cover more books, which made him have cognizance of the beauty that existed all around him. 

It was the anecdote of Albert Einstein on his poor performance in early school, being told by his principal, ‘you will never go far with your studies’ that caught the author’s attention and made him realize that there was more to life than what we just envision.And that the beauty of one’s life lay within.

A unique journey contorted into resurgence that led him to explore, venture, and sample different phases of life. 

He noticed the aptitude the human race possesses which can reshape our destinies, but not everyone is consistent with this fact. We have the potential to change through an intimate passion that fuels the motive to propel the law of attraction into motion. 

It may come as a surprise to discover that Albert Einstein was a failure, but managed to transform into a genius with an Intelligence Quotient (IQ) of 160. 

Albert Einstein featured prominently in our secondary education textbooks with the numerous relativity theories that earned him adulation and an honorary degree as well as a Nobel Prize in Physics and many other medal awards, which came his way, such as Franklin, Copley, Max Planck, Gold, Matteucci and Barnard awards. 

From Albert’s experience, Dr. Bahaidar started to redefine himself. There was a deep quest  that kept ringing in his mind! The more he delved deeper the more he discovered we have  latent potential of reshaping our destinies if we hold our missions dear to our hearts.

Whenever he perused through biographies of profound individuals, the more he flashed back to his dim past. The author had a rather low and dim perception of himself and thoughts of himself being without talent permeated through his life and kept on reliving the memory of the primary school entry exam bitter experience. 

Flashback runs through his thoughts the moment his class teacher ridiculed his English composition in class. Students could burst out in laughter at how low his ability in English was, which made him emerge at the bottom of the class.

This ignited the burning desire of wanting to be acquainted with the know-how in ways in which human beings operate and what makes us transform and radiate  intellectual abilities and character. 

A life of adventure was in the offering and soon it began. Hunt for a job abroad was to follow. He took this opportunity to research, to understand human nature and their cultural beliefs. That made him appreciate the delicate subject of life itself. He confirmed that an ‘unexamined life is not worth living.’

A relentless interaction through one-on-one talks, interviews, radio Q&A sessions, surveys on societal living, and documentaries on life that he conducted in various countries locally and abroad sparked the passion.. He also managed to touch base even with those nursing psychological hitches. 

The heart to heart involvement enriched his life, coming alive to the fact  there are many more with similar lesions in life and that people are desperately in need of  help. 

What he came to realize was that our thoughts have all along been deceptive. Coupled with mounting peer pressure, which our society has cast on us on the inadequacies and inabilities, the last nail on a coffin is in most cases driven in on people who, if discovered, would turn the world around. This is how many dreams get shattered . 

At what point do we feel a turning point in our life? A point when you feel you’ve done all that is needed yet nothing seems to work out towards our good? As human beings,do we at times, feel  that what we are left with is just one step to extinction? 

How do we get to that point where all we wish for is death? All alone on a cliff where you contemplate, “Should I do it or should I not?” We look back and all that we see in the past that bedeviled us: peer pressure, responsibilities that choked us, and misery killed or is killing all the hopes of a propitious future that never was or that may never be should the status quo linger.

At this juncture,life becomes so puzzling, with many a person experiencing  storms from every direction; financial puffs, bankruptcy, divorce, and even death. All this leaves us feeling  repugnant and repudiated.

Dr. Mohamed Bahaidar, having gone through all these stages and humiliating experiences, embarks on a journey to become a problem-solver. He attains this through  life coaching, counseling and a deliberate effort to embrace the little opportunities that life storms present. He pursues a rigorous mission of extolling virtuous acts to discover himself and the potential that was innate but inertia. 

The lessons which he edifies are those of Thomas A. Edison, a self-made genius, and a master of the invention with 1093 patents. With minimal schooling of 3 – 6 months, he managed to transform his abilities which made the world bow to his rare invention of the electric bulb. 

We all know that Thomas Edison’s journey was not without upheavals. We celebrate him as a profound, unique individual who started from nowhere and went on to attain exclusive awards from Technical Grammy Award, Rumford prize, and Distinguished Service Medal. Rarely do we look at the hurdles that he bore and the threatening thunderbolts that he endured to remain afloat. 

From Thomasd Edison’s experience, Dr. Bahaidar peered into the future and saw the only road to success was through rediscovering himself by understanding his potential. He ventured into oratory skills in which he excelled, yet not seamlessly having had a background that was limited in knowledge. Today his speech is seasoned, flamboyant and meticulous. Impressive, isn't it? 

His quest for knowledge took a drastic, daring approach: Within 14 years, he managed to cover over 2,000 books and dealt with almost 10,000 personal as well as family issues. That was not the end of the road but brought the need to comprehend why things happen the way they do including why most businesses ventures  and various dilemmas  human beings face.

This set-in motion the need for him to pursue his Ph.D. specifically a Doctor of Philosophy in management with self-study in the philosophy of life and the psychological effect impacting human beings  surroundings.

Who would have imagined that such a person would one day manage to complete his pursuit of knowledge up to a Doctor of Philosophy, Ph.D. level with a bias in management and self-research on behavioral psychology alongside guidance and counseling?! 

Today he helps millions of individuals. Today, Dr. Bahaidar is a Liaison (student president) of his university and he is well established within the business circles and imparts management skills to business rookies and business gurus alike.. 

He was once supposedly considered a failure, but today he has acquired and been crowned with a new title, “Professor”, due to his life-transforming talks, sharing wise counsel, and being bold enough to lead the way in many spheres of life.. 

He is now  celebrated motivational speaker and an author of 10 books and still counting: “The Hidden Self”, “The Point of Deflection”, “A Household of Bliss”, Sparkling Hope”, “Mirror Reflection”, “Trailing the Scent of Sex”, “The Anonymous Trek”, “My Dash of Existence, ’ Millionaire’s Quest,” and ”The Living Silhouette".

All directed towards the guidance of mankind to live a more fulfilling life and leave this world a better place than we found it.

Having visualized his breakthrough, two things propelled him in the right direction to become who he is today; self-reflection which accorded him the right self-image and self-confidence.

Dr. Bahaidar believes that as you read this book, you will rediscover your true self and self-worth then rise above all the mediocrity, pain, and frustrations which, if you succumb to, wil ruin the chances of becoming what God rightfully destined for you.

We sometimes are privileged to live long enough to hear stories—stories of ordinary people who excelled in life, stories of big names that dimmed their bright shining stars, catchy stories of victory after serious struggles. Well, this is one of them, a prolific writer who sees the need to not only motivate but also to provide pragmatic solutions to existing life challenges. 

His curiosity saw the emergence of a contemporary writer with a distinctive writing style that makes the reader relate to real-life situations he narrates. This marked  the birth of the 10 most exclusive dynamic books; all of them a treasure.  Visit your retail stores and online market to get yourself a copy of this award-winning book which will completely transform your life.

A solitude which primes to depression.

Lonesomeness is what furnishes us with dejection of the gloomy reality of what mantles our lives, we believe that depression is seeing someone wearing a low-spirited face filled with sadness yet the opposite might be the reality. 

How many of those that we feel are the happy campers and couples who we might consider as goals being cramped with misery despite awe-inspiring admirers might have nevertheless still loneliness curbs them when the cameras are off? These excitements come in due to the preconceived notion of what we feel we possess. Such as fans, plus wealth, but we are inept of owning the most precious of all which is our own heart. 

I can relate this scenario with the prudent words of Sushant Singh Rajput who committed suicide in Mumbai, an individual who was awarded as the best male actor in Indian Film Festival of Melbourne in 2017, saying ‘No matter what you achieve, what you want to aspire to be, or how famous and powerful you become, the most important thing is whether you are excited about each moment of your life because of your work and the people around you. 

Quit inspiring words but the question remains, are we excited to wake up every single morning, or are we on the verge of seeing death as a sign of tranquillity? Why do we feel lonely, Isolated, Despised, Unwanted, and Uncared for, or even Unattended? Do we feel segregated in this world and need help? Look around and see how many broken hearts, shattered dreams, dismissed thoughts, or even condemned potentials that are being verified by human critics. Should we listen to them, is a query that we are confused about, we lack the understanding to see beyond what we can reflect.

The above conveys us to the succeeding segments of a prevailing message from Sara Hegazy - Egyptian LGBT activist who committed suicide in Canada, saying ‘To my siblings – I tried to find redemption and failed, forgive me, to my friends – the experience (journey) was harsh and I am too weak to resist it, forgive me, and to the world – you were cruel to a great extent, but I forgive.’

The world is exacting with no doubt, the only aspect we need to adapt as individuals is we can only be at ease if we can appreciate our lives by seeing the world through the shoes of those who are below us instead of vying with those above us. 

The instant we can be grateful for our health by regarding those who are in Coma or those who have paralyzed, is the moment where we can appreciate our limbs by looking at how those without limbs can survive? If we can adapt this kind of notion then we won’t appreciate our lifelessness, but more besides that is the point of accumulating values…

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By Dr. Mohamed Bahaidar (Expert on social issues, Recipient of the most distinguished award in the Middle East, North Africa, and Asia, Author of The Hidden Self, The Point of Deflection, A Household of Bliss, Sparkling Hope, and Mirror Reflection.)

You hail from what you have been through.

Life has never been reasonable at any given time. While success is all we yearn for, we are confused about what to assume since we all along equate our triumphant moment to be a rosy garden with a red carpet laid on the ground for us to head to our goals. A smooth transition is what we desire. But does life work in that manner? 

A charming smile is what we feel obliged to wear while a crowd of paparazzi is busy clinging to their cameras with a lot of questions being posed to us on how we managed to get to the finishing line, being awarded a trophy on the stand of a podium, an arena filled with a multitude of people chanting our names. That is what we feel the reality of our dreams should be but is it? Life is contrary to what we envisage, a total contrast of the harsh reality facing us as an obstacle to our success. 

Sometimes we get to a point in life where we are incapable of grasping the situation, bursting with insurmountable pressure coming from all directions. It takes concrete groundwork in our well-being to survive the thunderous blows which are channeled in our way, yet we still need to be steady and resilient with an undying effort of diligence and a tangible stand of not giving up on what we hold dear to us. 

A relentless struggle of overcoming hurdles after hurdles, a continuous act of dwindling. But we still wake up, dust off, and move on as though nothing solemn ever happened. We sometimes get to a point where we get overwhelmed and feel the need to just throw in the towel. Fed up with continuous criticism and a life of misery, we feel we can no longer handle it, but once we give up, what’s next? If we don’t strive to prove the naysayers wrong, what purpose would we have served on this earth? 

The aftermath, as usual, is depression and maybe suicide. So, the only question left with us is either to halt or rise and advance with our mission, what you pick is all up to you. Let us heed some lessons from a mentor of patience and assiduousness. Thomas A. Edison attempted virtually 10,000 ways on how to invent the electric bulb. To him, all that was not a failing process, but a learning progression. 

We need to work on how we can acquire a positive attitude and having the free will of an optimistic mindset so that we can triumph. It doesn’t matter what we face. Sometimes it might be difficult to accept what stares right into our eyes or even to let go of what we treasure. Have you ever heard the statement “when it rains, it pours”? 

Sometimes one might encounter challenges ending up with a loss, it could be betrayal or being burdened with financial issues such as bankruptcy and indebtedness. It might be difficult seeing your empire collapsing or letting go of who is dear to you in divorce or the act of accepting the fact that someone you’re love passed away. It is difficult, hard-hitting to say the least, we can cry for a while, sympathies for a season, but then what next? 

I know in such circumstances, confusion overwhelms us, not knowing the next course of action. Since all the awful moments come at once, we might not want to remember or even think of it. The world seems to have left you all alone, dazed with situations that you can’t even comprehend. When nothing seems to make sense and hopelessness threaten to engulf the little life out of us, that’s when we say it’s either do or die, and life must go on. 

So, don’t allow situations to put you down; you are more than a conqueror, a unique miracle to the world, a champion who won the race of 100 million sperms, aren’t you worth anything? What I would recommend you do is search within you for the seeds of greatness that sow in you, so that you can rise and shine the sparkle in this world with your exclusive aptitude. 

We tend not to realize that our true strength lies in how we overcame our struggles, how we rise from the ashes, from the shaming path which we commenced with to where we stand today. We believe those atrocious incidents of our former self once exposed will deprive us of our decency, yet in the real sense, they expose the heroes and heroines within us. 

We are all destined to be someone at some point, and it doesn’t matter when the dream will come to pass. In existence, there are more than just mere dreams. We need to stop dreaming and start walking the steps of the dream for ourselves. We all go through bitter moments, but do we stop there, or do we grow and heed the lessons taught by nature. 

One might look at a duck on a pond that seems so serene, but what we do not see is the struggle going on under the surface of the water. We all paddle in our ponds. The only moment we stop paddling is the moment we stop living, which could be scary for most of us. But our journey is meant to have one lane, just to forge forward and there is no turning back. It is the ultimate desire of every living individual to enjoy life, be happy and it is through the same that we attain our dreams…. 

By Dr. Mohamed Bahaidar (Sociologist, Recipient of the most distinguished award in the Middle East, North Africa, and Asia, Author of The Hidden Self, The Point of Deflection, A Household of Bliss, Sparkling Hope, and Mirror Reflection).

When you have no clue, where you’re heading to, then any lane can guide you there!

An unsettling reality through the toxic notion that subsidizes our immune system as well as our confidence. This is what impairs our formative years. Fault finding is an art we are accustomed to as a society, we rarely see something positive. Our insights are rigged with pessimistic ideas. 

A single member that has a sour frame of mind can blemish the atmosphere of an entire family. As long as we are groomed to see predicament as a problem and not otherwise then this doesn’t only affect us as young lads, except grows further and affects those who we surround ourselves with. Just as a ghastly tomato destroys others in a bunch then likewise one cynical thought can tarnish our mentality, furthermore, it grows stronger to be contagious in our society.  

   

We should bear in mind that criticism carries more weight in our life and resides with us similar to how a dark stain dents a white shirt contrary to positive praise. This is the exact rationale media outlets have a specialty in. Since finding someone’s grime (scandals) has a high chance of drawing customers’ attention plus being perceived as more true than an extol. 

We are misplaced in this tight spot unacquainted on how to take charge. Aren’t we perplexed on how a young kid who has a mission to go all-out for success resting on that is the fact that all efforts are facilitated to pleasing their parents, however, when the results are out what runs through the guardian's obscured mind is the one subject which he failed then grumbles disregarding the other 11 subjects which are straight A’s? 

Having a well-founded perception that if you praise a kid then what will follow will be a sluggish performance not realizing how destructive we are towards our kids demolishing their self-esteem as well as self-reliance. 

It might seem gruesome just the fact that you took notice of it, nevertheless, these factors do exist in our communities and parents having a trend of name-calling their kids with ill comments, lashing them into despair. 

These kids grow up in search of a mentor to cover the breach which is caused by the parents and the fact that they refused to assume a place where kids can have a friend as their parents, and a role model at the same time. What they are looking for is just that liberty of being able to converse and come to common terms.

A father might feel relief to growl when he is at home, depositing his anger towards the children and likewise a mother seems to incline in the same direction. Verbal abuse and corporal punishment have been made by parents as their source of stress discharging. 

How can we be keen on love if we are surrounded by negative vibes? Instead of attachment we foster hate and create distance between us and that is the same reason we can’t even talk politely. 

We have to understand our thoughts, distance our hearts and the only way to get the other one to hear you is through shouting, but the question remains till when will we be this way?

All these are as a result of our subsequent downbeat thoughts, and the frustration which we have given copious power to depict foregone conclusion in all that we see. Now, as these kids grow up they need to develop a default system of the brain that tunes them to only remember the risky and traumatic experience with vague images of the good old day. 

I wish I could tell you it is much easier since to clear this obscuring negative thought is similar to a vessel of muddy water, however much clean water we pour into the jug. What we can only see is just impure water. 

Who do we have as a leader and a mentor is a question with no riposte? A shocking reality which we need to work on to improve what seems to be a norm. This is a grave mistake that acts as a tinge in our community.

10 transformative facts in our life.

1. We require guidance to enhance our living standards.

2. Absorb the fact of not taking things personally.

3. We should occupy ourselves as an alternative to being idle.

4. Reset our default.

5. Learn how to transform our problems into challenges.

6. Learn to make your bed, to despise the negative vibes.

7. Set reasonable goals.

8. Distinguish between emotions and thoughts.

9. Study our hurdles and bear them as our means and not our end.

10. Be content with who you are and what you have.

By Dr. Mohamed Bahaidar (Expert on social issues, Recipient of the most distinguished award in the Middle East, North Africa, and Asia, Author of The Hidden Self, The Point of Deflection, A Household of Bliss, Sparkling Hope, and Mirror Reflection.)

Present Day

Present Day.

What I see in this contemporary generation is an irony of existence. Jumbled with nature, we verify our choices, however, still stranded with our substantial contentment. Through the variety of choices of leisure, we have to pass time in but that doesn’t mean we are at liberty to be blissful in our life. In reality, the opposite might happen.

Let’s just focus on how we have so many options for these entertainments and activities with a question in mind: Why are we still less happy?

The world has to turn out to be accessible, and if exotic cuisine is what you’re looking for to pass your time, then its diversity might overwhelm you on how a single click of a button might take you through time and routes on how these foods came about. Yet with all that, the question to ponder, do we have more appetite or less?

On the strength of the above, it brings us into our second point: how equipped we can easily be through widespread knowledge? Funny enough, the more know-how we acquire the shallow our minds have become with less creativity. How many of us are ready to waste 20 years in school just to be hired with no initiative to be ingenious with a strategic plan on how to let money work for us instead of the contrary?

We are encircled with adequate expertise. For instance, if we talk about a doctor who might be well informed in their field of proficiency, then let’s look around on how the disease has overawed us with no curative drugs. The question remains: are we getting better or are we immersing ourselves into a conduit that we won’t be able to come out of?

We have a lot of sophisticated gadgets, but no happiness. A lot of excitement fencing us. Starting from those who see clubbing, drinking, and using substances as part of their amusement to those who have perceived to be Workaholic or Shopaholic as their source of tension discharging. Despite using the art of occupying ourselves and using temporary excitement as happiness, we still are left with a miserable life, a void in us that can’t be tapped.

We have a lot of interactions as well as followers on social platforms yet we don’t know who our neighbours are as well as being unsure of who is our genuine friend. Life has not only diminished in span but also value and appreciation.

Just the fact that we can brag on how we possess tall buildings with peddling treasure that we do not know how to utilize, we are still beached by the fact that we have no one who can listen to us. Enclosed around individuals who are out of character and bad humour. It should have surprised us just the idea of how transportation and technology are easier and faster, yet we still feel we have very minimum time which leaves us with a lot to do but none to achieve. 

Let’s have a discourse of how we are tangled with the incompatibility of Personality in our society. Just as we have been brainwashed to be certain with the fact that to trend is to be in a state of undress, we live in a generation where no song or movie will ever hit box office unless obscene scenes are involved. 

Flattering with a preconceived notion: don’t use your sentiment you will get hurt, use your mind to find comfort and happiness, is what we are trained to understand. And the fact that cheating on your spouse is a sign of smartness, we have been filled with fear of the word marriage while the concept of come we stay normalized. What we are left within our cohort is the word Love which is very expensive that we can’t afford. The contrast, Sex has become cheap and can be found anywhere…..

By Dr. Mohamed Bahaidar (Sociologist, Recipient of the most distinguished award in the Middle East, North Africa, and Asia, Author of The Hidden Self, The Point of Deflection, A Household of Bliss, Sparkling Hope, and Mirror Reflection).

Riotous Death Of George Floyd

 “When you take notice of the name George Floyd, what thoughts run through your head? Pain, racial discrimination, retaliation, upheaval, plus the term ‘black lives matter’. 

 

Our exertions are usually stricken by what we leave behind, as a father figure we are groomed to protect our own. We urge their comfort by ensuring ease in their path, contrary to that a guardian leaves behind a 6-year-old daughter devoid of a father and a wife with no husband, his demise pact elation in the black community which conveyed revolution to the world.” 

 

Let’s ask ourselves how comes just one more incident was sufficient to trigger us for change with the term “I can’t breath”. Could we resound through this peculiar-story to the demeaning fact that we go through as race in suffocation, which has always been a norm, whereas knees being pressed on our necks is what we are accustomed to? 

 

Igniting emotions in commemoration of losing (Ahmaud Arbery & Breonna Taylor) noting that racial biases don’t end with those who are at the bottom, but even when you climb the stairs of success they trail. Who else is well known as the first African American president (Barack Obama) being demanded for a birth certificate when vying for POTUS position, and later being told he was grossly incompetent during his reign. Do you think this ends in American let's talk off Meghan Markle, who had to renounce the Duchess of Sussex position? 

The Irony of the world we live in is that they preach democracy to the world while their law enforcement is bridging all human rights; claiming to advocate peace, the administration is looting and filled with stains of human blood throughout the African continent and the Middle East; Imposing gender equality and LGBTQ partisan while we segregate people by giving precedence to the white even though we all know the Indigenous of America are not even white?

 

What we are left with is a staining sting with vivid motion of poignant pain that succumbed to Floyd at the moment where Derek Chauvin was pressing his knee on his neck, causing chest pains and thirst, curbing him from breathing. The only thing he called out in desperation was “Mama” who died two years ago. 

 

This incident brought Law enforcement to their knees at a stance of resonating with the crowd, with passable grounds to wipe off the pandemic hype of Covid 19.”

 

- Food for thought, what are we in search for? Equality or equity....

- Let the voice be heard!      

 

By Dr.Mohamed Bahaidar (Expert on social issues, Recipient of the most distinguished award in the Middle East, North Africa and Asia, and an Author.)

My Memoir

Right from childhood, the author has lived a life devoid of satisfaction. Dumb, stupid, good for nothing, failure among others, are some of the tags and labels many leveled against him. He had no confidence in himself and, to make matters worse, the vast majority didn’t see anything good in him. 

 

Despite it all, his parents and his role model were the ones who believed in him regardless of the string of failures that faced him every step of the way with each dawning day. His role model took the trouble to always be there to encourage him and help him to self-reflect, rediscover himself and uncover his talents. This was none other than his paternal grandfather. Above all things, he was also his source of inspiration, encouragement, and hope.

 

Such were the circumstances that the writer had to put up with, though he lived with his immediate family who believed in him no matter what and rendered support to him at all costs, and the grandpa become instrumental in his life and the game-changer. 

 

They worked hard, hand in hand, to keep him encouraged and overcome the frustrations of failure by instilling hope, self-confidence, courage in him and the desire to discover which kindle his strengths and work on his weaknesses. 

 

He did not lack even a single textbook; his parents provided all that was needed to see him through his early education, even though he emerged at the bottom of his class. He vividly recalls the tears rolling down his mother’s cheeks for his lack of success through his entry exams for grade one.

 

She was dismayed, and fright overcame her over the future plight of her son.

Have you ever had grave concerns and self-defeating thoughts about yourself? Ever looked at yourself in the mirror and all that you saw was a dim, foolish, and an individual who is considered dumb? The author thought of himself far worse than these revelations. 

 

He went to two schools in the nursery stage! He moved from one school to the other and even rewound 4th grade thrice in three different schools. 

 

The strongest God-given pillar of mankind is that of family. His family embraced him even in the wake of such humiliating blows in life. And at the time of need, his blood and flesh did not disappoint him. 

 

Often his dad would take him out to play, have a one-on-one pep talk, help him discover where his passion lay, and, above all, assured him that he would one day end up being very prosperous. He made sure he attended the best academies, provided him with all the books, and supported him in every way he deemed fit.

 

The Bahaidar family played a great role in transforming him into who he is today. They constantly reminded him that anyone is bound to fail if forced onto an issue or an area he doesn’t enjoy or value, the point that was being put across here, was an emphasis on him identifying his interest and passion. The moment he figured out his interests and his passion for life, it became a moment for celebration and marked the beginning of his breakthrough.

His grandfather, his hero and role model was a man who sacrificed everything just to put a smile on his face. Not even a single motivation story did he conceal from him. He encouraged him into sports, arose his ego until he realized how unique he was. 

 

He acknowledged the support accorded to him, which by far was the greatest asset he had ever encountered to instill hope and chart the way forward. He felt more secure, even though he had a lot that was going on around him. He was more relaxed despite complicated and bewildering circumstances. Above all else, self-confidence and sound judgment cleared the way from obscure things that were ahead of him.

 

Such great mentorship brought him to the point of appreciating each and everything that was done on his behalf, his wife, and kids being the epitome of his happiness and true inspiration.

A discrete being from humble surroundings who struggles to get back on his feet after an encounter with the death of his grandfather at age 15 and the interpretation of what life would be like after that sudden demise with a deep sense of remorse and appreciation to be alive and give gratitude to God. 

 

The loss of a dear grandfather can be such a stumbling block and present itself as a setback if you put too much thought into it. Experiencing the death of such a loved one can be very confusing and scary at the same time, which makes you raise questions about grief and death-related rituals. 

 

Grief influenced his understanding and response to loss owing to the friendship they had nurtured and the rapport that had been built over the years. His hopes seem to have been dashed. His role model, advisor, and his most dependent mentor was no more. An infinite sea of loneliness engulfed him and an irreplaceable gap in his heart seems to have developed and was now becoming a vitiating element with no hope left to forge the way forward. 

 

The greatest task was that of self-reflection on himself and to unleash the potential in him despite the grief weighing heavily on him. Fighting amongst the society with their establishment of a class order. 

 

The author came to realize, the demeaning factor affecting us, and our society is the competition which we have amongst ourselves on who is rich or the brave ones to clinch the Nobel prize award. Who is smart enough to emerge the top student? Who is diligent and industrious to be crowned employee of the year? 

 

These stratifications are created by our society to keep us in competition amongst ourselves. Yet we forget what happens to the vast majority who can’t attain the standards that we have an obsession about. 

 

On one hand, struggles are rife through the grief which seemed to be getting the best of him and, in need of a quick fix solution, questions begin to linger in his mind. ‘Is there a chance for a better life, or is this the point of no return?’ 

 

 

After the many near misses, he had had throughout his life, at the age of 18 he profited immensely drawing deeply from self-help books with the help of Babu Ali Mandry that ignited a positive spirit within him that brought an understanding of the need to look at the brighter side of things. 

 

The more he delved into the world of philosophy, psychology, and motivational stories, the more desire he had to cover more books, which made him have cognizance of the beauty that existed all around him. 

 

It was the anecdote of Albert Einstein on his poor performance in early school, being told by his principal, ‘you will never go far with your studies’ that caught the author’s attention and made him realize that there was more to life than what we envision.

 

A unique journey contorted into resurgence that led him to explore, venture, and sample different phases of life. With keen analytical research on the potentials of humans and a prolific counselor who took it upon himself to understand human nature through his personal experience and the unfolding events of those around him. 

 

He noticed the aptitude we the human race possess which can reshape our destinies, but not everyone is consistent with this fact. We have the potential to change through an intimate passion that fuels the motive to propel the law of attraction into motion. 

 

It may come as a surprise to discover that Albert Einstein was a failure, but managed to transform into a genius with an Intelligence Quotient (IQ) of 160. 

 

A man who featured prominently in our secondary education textbooks with his numerous relativity theories that earned him adulation and an honorary degree as well as a Nobel Prize in Physics and many other medal awards, which came his way, such as Franklin, Copley, Max Planck, Gold, Matteucci and Barnard awards. 

 

What changed him is inquisitiveness that kept ringing in the author's mind! The more he delved deeper the more he discovered we have the latent potential of reshaping our destinies if we hold our missions dear to our hearts.

 

Whenever he peruses through biographies of profound individuals the more, he flashes back to his dim past. The author had a rather low and dim perception of himself and thoughts of himself being without talent permeated through his life and kept on reliving the memory of the primary school entry exam bitter experience. 

 

Flashback runs through his thoughts the moment his class teacher ridiculed his English composition in class. Students could burst out in laughs at how low his ability in English was, which made him emerge at the bottom of the class.

 

This ignited the burning desire of wanting to be acquainted with the know-how in ways in which humans operate and what makes us transform in intellectual abilities and character. 

A life of adventure was in the offering and soon began. Hunt for a job abroad was to follow. He took this opportunity to research, to understand human nature and their cultural beliefs. That made him appreciate the delicate subject of life itself. 

 

A relentless interaction through one-on-one talks, interviews, radio Q&A sessions, surveys on societal living, and documentaries on life that he conducted in various countries locally and abroad. He also managed to touch base even with those with psychological hitches. 

 

The heart to heart involvement enriched his life, comprehending there are many more with similar lesions in life and that people are desperately in need of dire help. 

 

What he came to realize was that our thoughts have all along been deceiving us. Together with mounting peer pressure, which our society has cast on us on the inadequacies and inabilities. To survive the competition of success or even those wielding financial muscles are all set to wrestle those who question their ways. Such is how our dreams get destroyed we then lack the drive to move on.

 

At what point do we feel a turning point in our life? A point when you feel you’ve done all that is needed yet nothing seems to work out towards our good? As humans, do we feel sometimes that what we are left with is just one step to extinction? 

 

How do we get to that point where all we wish for is death? All alone on a cliff, where you contemplate, “Should I do it or not?” We look back and all that we see is the past that bedeviled us, peer pressure, responsibilities that choke us, and misery killing all the hopes of a better brighter future dashed away. 

 

At this juncture, the author feels the need to reinvent, the instances where the storms blow from every direction; financial puffs, bankruptcy, divorce, or even death. All this leaves us puzzled, not knowing what to do and help is nowhere to be found.

 

After a long fruitful journey of exposure, he finds himself amid a chaotic society which brings him to assume leadership. 

 

A problem-solver, he becomes through counseling in the course of embracing life coaching techniques. A specific mission of extolling virtuous acts to discover oneself and the potential we have which has nothing to do with education. 

 

The lessons which he edifies are those of Thomas A. Edison, a self-made genius, and a master of invention with 1093 patents. With minimal schooling of 3 – 6 months, he managed to transform his abilities which made the world bow to his rare invention of the electric bulb. 

 

We cannot appreciate enough his inventive works. If it were not for him, we would still be using other ways of illuminating. A profoundly unique individual who started from nowhere and went on to attain exclusive awards from Technical Grammy Award, Rumford prize, and Distinguished Service Medal.

 

The author peered into the future and saw the only road to success was through rediscovering himself by understanding his potential. A good orator as he set himself about with limited knowledge. Speech is blunt if it is not packed with sound bites with creative and impressive ideas. 

 

A question that lingered in his mind brought about the eagerness to find solutions through knowledge. Within 14 years, he managed to cover over 2,000 books and dealt with almost 10,000 personal as well as family issues. That was not the end of the road, but brought the need to comprehend why most businesses fail and what dilemmas we face as humans. 

 

He saw himself as a convincing communicator who lacked the knowledge to advise people on the different circumstances and many life issues. This set-in motion the need for him to complete his Ph.D. specifically a Doctor of Philosophy in management with self-study in philosophy of life and the psychological effect impacting our surroundings.

 

Who would have imagined that such a person would one day manage to complete his pursuit of knowledge up to a Doctor of Philosophy, Ph.D. level with a bias in management and self-research on behavioral psychology alongside guidance and counseling?! 

 

Today he helps millions of individuals. He rose to become a Liaison (student president) of his university and he is well established within the business circles and imparts management skills to the rookies and new beginners in business. 

 

He was once supposedly considered a failure, but today he has acquired and been crowned with a new title, “Professor”, due to his life-transforming talks, sharing wise counsel, and being bold enough to lead the way in many aspects touching on life. 

 

A celebrated motivational speaker and an author of 10 books and still counting: “The Hidden Self”, “The Point of Deflection”, “A Household of Bliss”, "The Sparkling Hope”, “Mirror Reflection”, “Trailing the Scent of Sex”, “The Anonymous Trek”, “My Dash of Existence, ’ Millionaire’s Quest,” and ”The Living Silhouette".

 

All directed towards the guidance of mankind to live a more fulfilling life and leave this world a better place than we found it.

 

Having visualized his breakthrough, two things propelled him in the right direction to become who he is today; self-reflection which accorded him the right self-image and self-confidence.

Bahaidar believes that as you read this book, you will rediscover your true self and self-worth and rise above all the mediocrity, pain, and frustrations which, if you succumb to, will almost ruin the chances of becoming what God rightfully destined for you.

 

We sometimes are privileged to live long enough to hear stories—stories of ordinary people who excelled in life, stories of big names that dimmed their bright shining stars, catchy stories of victory after serious struggles. Well, this is one of them, a prolific writer who sees the need to not only motivate but also to provide pragmatic solutions to existing life challenges. 

 

His curiosity saw the emergence of a contemporary writer with a distinctive writing style that makes the reader relate to real-life situations he narrates. Which birthed the notion of inscribing 10 of the most exclusive books, visit your retail stores and/or online market to get yourself a copy of this award-winning book which will completely transform your life.